EMDR for Survivors of Abuse: What It Is, How It Helps, and What to Expect

If you’ve experienced abuse or trauma, you may carry memories that feel overwhelming, intrusive, or stuck. Even when life moves forward, those memories can keep pulling you back. You might wonder if healing is possible — and it is. One powerful therapy approach that many people find helpful is EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing).

What Is EMDR?

EMDR is a therapy designed to help the brain process difficult memories so they no longer feel as distressing. Instead of talking in detail about the trauma, EMDR uses bilateral stimulation (such as guided eye movements or tapping) while you think about a memory in a safe and structured way. This process helps your brain re-file the memory, so it feels less overwhelming.

How EMDR Helps Survivors of Abuse

  • Reduces symptoms of PTSD: flashbacks, nightmares, and intrusive thoughts often lessen.
  • Lowers emotional intensity: painful memories start to feel more distant and less overwhelming.
  • Builds resilience: clients often report feeling stronger and more in control of their lives.
  • Restores self-worth: EMDR can help reduce feelings of guilt, shame, or self-blame connected to trauma.

What to Expect in an EMDR Session

  • You’ll spend time building trust and safety with your therapist first.
  • Sessions are paced at a level you’re comfortable with — you’re always in control.
  • Your therapist will guide you through short sets of bilateral stimulation while you bring a memory to mind.
  • Over time, the memory feels less “raw,” and you’re able to move forward without the same emotional weight.

Common Concerns

Some people worry EMDR means reliving trauma in full detail. That isn’t the case. You don’t have to share every detail with your therapist — you only share what feels safe. The goal is gentle healing, not re-traumatization.

Final Thoughts

Healing after abuse takes courage, but you don’t have to do it alone. EMDR offers survivors a path forward — one where the past no longer holds the same power.

👉 If you’re ready to explore whether EMDR is right for you, book a free consultation with Olga today. She offers EMDR therapy in Burlington and online across Ontario.

Learn More About the Author

Sarah Terwilligar is a Registered Psychotherapist located in Ottawa, Ontario. Sarah currently practices online counselling and phone counselling. Sarah offers individual counselling sessions for youth and adults, as well as, family counselling for families with children, youth experiencing difficulties with eating, disordered eating, and eating disorders.

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